Monthly Archives: February 2016

Synergy As A Source

The power that comes together when like-minded people join forces, Synergy. In this life of struggle and dog-eat-dog, let’s face it, we need all the support we can get. A huge part of my ability to overcome negative statistics as a teen mom was the devotion of responsible mentors who wanted to see me succeed. I was down. I was overwhelmed and I needed a team of people to set my feet on solid ground. Trust worthy caregivers to care for my son who was only weeks old when I returned to high school. Compassionate counselors who knew my pain and the kind of direction I needed to be imprinted with. And of course, the administrators who ran the programs and saw to it my educational needs were accessible. My life changed drastically when I became a first time mother at sixteen, but I have a success story that came out of despair and I can promise you it was not something I could have done alone. It required synergy as my source.

As life went on I found seasons change. I settled down to have a family. The simple fact of having a baby (or 6) at home can make it seem like there is no getting out. I became very isolated during the thick of my childbearing years. Suddenly, I was submerged. The long hours and the sleepless nights that went on for years. The challenges of money that come with acquiring more responsibility, it all was too much to handle alone. I looked around one day and realized losing my support system, or failing to ensure a new one, was a mistake. I needed help. I needed friendship and quality people in my life for it to be balanced. Though I benefited from the support of other good people during my single years, I had let it go thinking that was the normal thing we all did as spouses and parents. I excepted that everyone became more involved with tending to their own families and I followed suit.

When God called me to begin this ministry, my instinct was to surrounded myself with people who were already living ministry leadership. I changed my news feeds so I only saw posts from these mentors. I began to seek out my guidance and direction through anointed relationships. God was using others to bring me into this new level of my life.  I had reached a place were I understood it was no good for me to operate alone. The work God was doing required MANY. I faced the issues of hard relationships. I faced the issues of negative relationships. Both of these complications had kept me closed off and isolated in the past. I needed tools and I needed synergy again to beat the odds, to be a success at what God was calling me to do. One of these important relationships came in the form of a Twitter follow. Someone I had connected with recommended daily emails via #DailyProphetic and Neilvermillion.com. This became a powerful connection in my social media experience. I felt whenever Neil put a word out, it was an opportunity to meet with the Lord Himself and be refreshed.

 

Synergy as my source has become a motto in my life. I need the right people to break out into influence if I intend to reach the youth of this world with the love of the Father. It is a work I cannot do alone. It is bigger than me. It requires many experts. It will require a strength that must be tapped into through the anointed elect. Whatever you are trying to accomplish for God, I know you will find yourself in need of empowerment. Stay connected to the anointing of the Holy Spirit which is present in this age. Together, we can do great things! #PleasingAbba #DailyProphetic #TeenMomSuccess

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Phone Love

The phenomenon of phone love. It has overtaken my world. I love my phone. I usually end up buying a new cell phone once a year. My phone is comforting. It has all my music and playlists. Playlists that rock me out of stagnation, or carry me through it with the most soothing tones. My work is in my phone. Little apps in the form of little pictures at my fingertips. I can bounce from Facebook to Twitter and Pintrest. I can check out my domain’s stats and see which countries I have reached with my words as their shapes light up on the map of this magnificent world, all from my lovely phone! I won’t deny how much I love my phone and the age in which I get to create.

With all that being said I recently challenged myself. Well, really I smashed my phone in a temper tantrum. Embarassing, but I was really stressed out. I had just finished self publishing my first book and it was co-written with my husband. New territory is freakish.  As I looked at the totally nonfunctional screen of my large ZTE, I knew it was going to cost me. Being self employed and having a large family means being patient with money. Halloween was around the corner. I could take the money I had to spend on new clothes, or I could replace the screen on my phone. Getting a new phone on my plan wasn’t an option. I’d just bought my phone less than 2 months before. This would be crazy to some, but you just have to understand my love of fashion- I decided to give up having a phone, at least until I had the money to buy one I really wanted.

I still had my laptop and I still had access to my husband’s cell, but no cell phone for me.  It was weird. It actually hurt. It made me sad. I found myself having moments of my day that I usually shared on social media. It was frustrating trying to manage all my accounts, too. As the days past I became slightly used to it. I had to ask myself, was half of what I posted even necessary? For work it has to be a steady flow of posts, but for my personal accounts – was sharing my life through my phone really worthy of my time? I seemed to be much more present in my relationships now that my phone was gone. I share on social media to be social and I am social, but the time away to reflect on why I use my phone and what my attachment to technology really meant to me was powerful: It was phone withdrawal.

The entire time I went without a cell was three months. I bought the phone I wanted and was instantly back in the mix. Going without didn’t change my phone use or love, much at all. Phones do fill a place in our lives and I do not know if there will ever be a life without them…. now. I do crave real relationships and while I love being constantly connected to my favorite peoples’ lives at all times, I would much rather see them in person, kick back and have a good laugh. And that is all I can do in this techno world that I love. Embrace with control and a constant reminder that I can survive without my phone, if I really need to. #pleasingabba

The Teen Sex Life

It almost sounds unreal. Far from unreal, is it a topic that is untouchable? I wonder as I try to reach out to young people. I ask myself what I needed to hear as a teen that would have helped me make right choices and encouraged me to reach beyond the norm. Because that was the reality that I faced as a teen. Most of my peers were in sexual relationships. For me it was a lot of pressure. Sexual relationships for myself and my peers filled a place in our lives to bond with other people and share love and affection. Love and affection are normal parts of human character, so we can say that teens rightfully need to explore relationships. I can speak to this topic as an adult who has lived through it.

Use caution with intimacy

Intimacy binds us together with another person and causes us to become attached to them. When you attach yourself so closely and deeply with another person you stand the risk of being hurt.  I was usually looking for a deeper connection while MOST of the guys that where approaching me to date me or hang out with me only wanted to use me for sex. I’m still blindsided by this sometimes as a woman. Its like my mind isn’t attached to the same body. I forget how men think because I am not one.

There is this intense sexual hunt going on in the world. It’s called nature and reproduction and our youth can feel the impact. We can offer them caution and discipline, because discipline in sexuality will never be unneeded. We can help our teens to work through temptation, but we have to open the conversation. And to open up ourselves to talking about what their sex lives really look like, we will have to acknowledge they exist. #pleasingabba